Lessons Learned in 2017
We're almost a month into 2018 and I don't know how the heck that happened, but so far, this year honestly rocks. It might be in large part due to the fact that I won a spot on the guest list to a Nick Jonas show and he's one of my first legit celeb crushes from childhood, but some of it has to do with the lessons I learned in 2017.
2017 was kind of rough for me, to be honest. But all of the set backs and heartbreak that came with it also brought on some lessons that I'm bringing into 2018, some realizations, and some ways to deal. So down below, you'll get a sense of what is making this year kick ass so far.
DON'T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
I work in customer service. I have for as long as I can remember, and the past 4 years I've been in the coffee business, which surprisingly brings a whole lot of angry with it. I've met some amazing people through my job - customers and co-workers. But I've also met some really terrible people - customers and co-workers. Anyone who knows me knows that confrontation isn't my thing and I can't handle anyone yelling at me or saying bad things about me. I'm getting better at brushing things off, but it's not something I can change overnight. I would bend over backwards for anyone in my life and I'm happy to. As my boyfriend, really smartly, put it - once things go down, everything turns bad in my head - and he's right. But what made me realize that not only do I have the best boyfriend, but I really can't take things so hard, is hearing him say 'it's not the case'. Not everything is turning bad. One bad encounter with an angry customer or a co-worker who has a problem with anyone who doesn't say exactly what they want to hear isn't going to change the amount of love and support and good that I have going on in my life. People are always going to test your strength and all you can do is deal with it and learn from it. I genuinely feel sorry for the people who are living in 2018 tearing people down just because they can. It's okay to be hurt by things people do or say, but if they are someone who you'll never see again or you'll forget about the second you see the people who do mean something to you, think about the good you have and the love you have and remember that they don't matter. So don't beat yourself up over something as minuscule as someone who feels good about making people feel bad.
THERE IS NO RUSH
I spent the majority of 2017 stressing myself out because I wasn't where I thought I should be and in the end, it only hurt me and my goals. I got so in my head about not getting my dream job as soon as I started my blog that I basically stopped blogging. I was so unmotivated and stopped believing in myself because I felt like I was getting nowhere and that's so far from the reality of it. The truth is, us 'millennials' as they like to call us, don't really get our lives together until our 30's. Our economy is nowhere near what it was when our parents were our age and those standards and expectations that are set for us based on when they got jobs, got married, had kids - it doesn't make sense for us. So, one thing that really started making sense to me towards the end of the year was that there really isn't any rush to be where society expects us to be. I am in an amazing relationship and happy with where we are - which is nowhere near marriage and kids for either of us, I know more about what exactly I want to do career wise and it's finally paying off. So take your time. Move at your own pace and don't rush through life, because I guarantee you'll miss it and we only get one. The pay off in the end is way better when you take your time, anyway. Trust me. It just makes the end goal so much more satisfying.
TAKE THE RISK
This is fairly straightforward. If you don't take the risk, you're never going to get anywhere. Take it from someone who has never really been a risk taker when it counts. It wasn't until the end of the year that I started making moves and realizing the worst someone could say is no, and that would leave you no worse than where you started. I emailed the CEO of Philz and told him exactly what I wanted to do. Because of that, I got to meet with the head of Marketing and now I know better than I did before the meeting exactly what I want to do and I'm making moves to do it. I applied for my dream job, I'm putting my words out into the world with this blog and it's finally paying off. I took the risk and now I'm in the midst of something really great and something that I'm really proud of. Not only that, but I'm meeting really great people and inspiring people so, take the risk, no matter how big or small it may seem, it's always worth it in the end.
I can't tell you how grateful I am for my family, my friends, my life. 2017 tested all of my relationships and they are all the stronger because of it. It's important to know who is always going to be standing in your corner and to never take them for granted. Without my boyfriend's constant support , even through the really stressed, anxiety filled days, without his constant reminder that I can do this and without hearing him say that he believes in me more than I believe in myself, I would not be writing this for everyone. Truth is, I would have given up a long time ago. Without my dad making me laugh when I'm crying about someone being mean to me or not getting an interview somewhere, life would suck. I have the best support system in my family and friends and it's really important to take a step back and appreciate them every once in a while.
2017, good riddance, it's over. I'm ready for 2018 and everything it has in store for me. Life has, truthfully, never been better and I can't wait to kick ass this year, with the ones I love by my side.
Let me know in the comments below what you brought with you from 2017 and I'll see y'all next time with a special anniversary post. xx